Married or not, you should read this...
It made me shed quite an amount of precious tears:'(
PS: This story is copied directly from Facebook, it's quite a hot topic currently, thus, would like to share to those who haven't read it. It worth your 10mins of time! READ IT~ You might save a marriage(:
“When I got home that night as my wife served
dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She
sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know
what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She
didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the
chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t
talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what
had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory
answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I
just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a
divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car,
and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into
pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become
a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I
could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally
she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see.
To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which
had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing
something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep
and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with
Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just
did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the
morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything
from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested
that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as
possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s
time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to
recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of
our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going
crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd
request.
I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She
laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she
applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My
wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was
explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we
both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy
in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to
the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in
my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about
the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the
office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily.
She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I
realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I
realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her
face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a
minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day,
when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the
woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth
day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t
tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped
by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was
choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but
could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have
grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was
the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom
out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an
essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer
and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I
might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms,
walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her
hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly;
it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight
made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly
move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I
hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped
out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay
would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door
and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have
a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I
won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I
didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each
other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on
our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane
seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the
door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the
floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The
salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll
carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That
evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run
up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been
fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice.
She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the
whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with
the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a
relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the
bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot
give happiness in themselves.
So remember, never do anything to hurt your love ones,
Find time to be your spouse’s
friend,
and do those little things for each other that build intimacy.
you'll never know when they will leave you,
don't be regretful for your whole lifetime(:
Happy marriage for those who are married♥
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A boring yet warming new year~
Time comes & goes like tornado~
HEY!!! Time past real fast, don't you think so?? Did this cheongsam event with Bernice a week ago before Chinese New Year, when both of us were still discussing where to get our new year clothings, and now, it has finally comes to an end, where we've finished visiting(: So how much in total you lovelies got for your angbaos? 哈哈!
Anyway, how did you like my new set of gelish nails from Elva Beauty Palace??
Simple, yet in playful naughty colour! (笑)... Polka DotZzz♥
You can visit them @: Blk 442, Clementi Ave 3, #01-111
Their prices are reasonable and affordable, so do support!
Goodbye CNY, see you in a year time(^. ^)/
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My 21st Birthday Celebration~
HAPPY BIRTHDAY...JOVIN♥
Finally... After 3months & 9days, the wait is over!!! I didn't break my promise, though my last post stated that I'll blog bout my birthday celebration the very next week, but due to serious high fever for quite sometime, I delayed my post:( Recovered on the very night before reunion dinner, than been celebrating CNY and visiting for 7days straight, thus, I'm free at last^.^
Pictures will do the talking as usual~
All the importance who made their presence♥
Thanks for the lovely decoration surprises(:
The navigator of the yacht...
Thanks for the lovely wishes from all of you!
These lovelies never fail to brighten up my day for years.
And they're the only cliques since I first started modelling.
Kinda afraid of climbing up here at first-.-
Awwww~~ So loved right?? 呵呵!
We always argue, but she's still my dear^.^
Love the room, let's act cute together~
As usual, she's doing the BBQ cooking on board
while all of us were enjoying, 哈哈哈!
And thanks to my pretty girl for doing the serving to all the lazies~
Really glad to see everybody enjoying and those happy laughters!
So does we, enjoying our food^.^
Time for singing "Happy Birthday" song to me now, HAHA!
好开心哦, 真的爱死你们了♥
Make a wish!!! 1st wish, 2nd wish, 3rd wish.....Greedy Me!
大头照+CUPCAKES, 超可爱的 right??
Thanks Cherylene & Beatrice大姐 for the Citigems diamond necklace and this touching birthday card, you girls made me teared upon reading it:'(
Come'on babyyy~ Put it on for me, I'm lovin' it!
And thanks to Serene, Xingyi & Chanel for the HelloKitty perfume(:
Thanks to this killer, I vomited till 6am though I only drank half a cup-.-
(As you know I don't touch alcohol, but I'm being forced to)
Off the yacht set sail back to shore, leaving all those rubbish uncleaned.
While I'm happily cam-whoring away....
There's so much so much appreciation and thank you I wanna say to all of you that came for my 21st Birthday. Though it's a short celebration, thanks for making it the most memorable one for me!
(Those that are here for pictures purpose only, you can skip reading below, as they are just script I wanna thanks my friends)
His the owner of the yacht, Chris. Thanks for giving me such a great price for the rental of your yacht and also agreed to help out in giving me those wonderful surprises when my friends approached you. But so sorry for making a mess in both the outside and inside of your yacht! Though you won't be reading my blog I guess, but still I wanna voice them out, thanks(:
A very big thanks to this dear girl, Stacey. Without her, guess my birthday celebration won't be such a success! Knew her for a few years, but we weren't that close till recently, and imagine she's the one who planned every single thing for my birthday, even the decoration and surprises idea. I still remembered she asked me why my birthday always nobody plan for me, so since I love cats alot, she thought of this pink kitty theme, and said she gonna make this celebration the most memorable one, so that I'll be happy. She shouldn't be the one doing that, but she actually did, really felt so so so touched. Thanks alot girl, LOVE LAH♥
This brother of mine, TianWei, you lovelies must be thinking why he didn't appear in any of the above picture! Cause his the only guy friend I invited, people "shy" mah~ (笑)... Thanks for this very big birthday present, the booking of the private yacht, the red wine and champagne, else I'll be having a big headache for my 21st Birthday. Thanks for doting this sister of yours always without fail, your the best manzxzc, love chuuu bro~
*~Pardon me for my "SEH" face~*(This picture was taken after I had the champagne)
Another brother of mine, Terence, his one of the photographers that always been supportive towards me, even till now, he already quitted from the photography line. He was invited both as a guest and also the only official photographer of the day. As I was thinking, since we've to pay an amount for each guests, and the number of guest is limited, I might as well invite someone that I'm close with, instead of some unknown photographer right? Anyway, thanks for capturing all the precious moments. I know it's really tiring for you, but I really loved the pictures. And also thanks for the birthday gifts from you and your girlfriend. Those pictures will be kept forever, 谢了!
The rest of the importance, also a very big thanks to you all of you♥
Thanks for helping out and taking part in the decoration and surprises.
Thanks for wearing pink attire and putting on the kitty ear.
Thanks for coming, especially those who took leave just for me.
Thanks for all the birthday gifts, really love them.
Thanks for everything and everything, there's too much to thanks!
Now you know why I took a long time to blog about this post?? There's so much pictures to edit, and some of them I've to do it myself, or re-edit. I already tried my best and I know most of you readers have given up waiting! But still I apologise for the seldom blogging, I'm really packed up like always:( Now that I've blogged my birthday post, hope you guys will forgive me and DON'T RUN ;p
A picture to end my kitty celebration post, MEOW~*
PS: Didn't managed to take a picture of the whole yacht, as the celebration was at night, kinda too dark! And I was late that day due to traffic jam, best of all, I had a great fall when I board the yacht, thanks to my stupid heels, I got a great bruise on my birthday-.- The yacht set sail a lil too rush, thus didn't had the chance. Anyway, mine wasn't a big one, as this yacht was licensed to 12paxs only including me and the owner, just nice for all my close friends, so actually nothing much to see lah... 哈哈~
Hope you guys enjoy reading the post ♥
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Sad to say goodbyebye~
WHAT'S YOUR DREAM HOUSE LIKE??
For me?? Of cause it's always Hello Kitty, and nothing more than HELLO KITTY!!! 呵呵~ Was google-ing around for a new theme on one of my last few photoshoot with one of my favourite photographer, when I came around this super fcuking cute website. I'm sure you guys would love it(: Some of you might have already saw it before, but who cares? I just wanna share it ♥
Look at the exterior Hello Kitty design of the house!
Don't you dream to stay inside?? Let's imagine if it's Jovin's house^.^
My HELLO KITTY living room...
My HELLO KITTY kitchen...
My HELLO KITTY bedroom...
My HELLO KITTY dressing room...
Last but not least, my HELLO KITTY toilet...超可爱哟!
MY MY MY... HOW I WISHED IT'S REALLY MINE=.= I could stay in sucha home forever, and be the best 宅女! But mommy would kill me if I turn the whole house like this:( Does that means my dream's totally destroyed?? NOOO... There's somewhere in Taipei that has this HELLO KITTY villa! Ahhhh... My next target for holiday will be Taipei, who's kind enough to bring me there?? 哈哈~
I WANNA GO, & I MUST GO, & I DON'T CARE~!!!
What about all this dreamy bedroom(s)??
好辛福, 好温暖的 feeling right?!?
Anyone owns a room like this?? Mind lending me for a few hours photoshoot??
Pleaassseeeeeeee...*innocent faceeeee*~
I know it's kiddish, but seriously, I haven't did much indoor photoshoots before, maybe once or twice long time ago with my girlfriends accompanying me?? I dont remember, because it's bout the money, not the pictures. But this is the frigging firsttime I wanna have it in a cossy room like this!!! Any kind souls willing to lend out your lovely room?? I don't mind paying hourly rates, EMAIL ME♥
A sneak preview of my 21st birthday on private yacht, sorry t keep you waiting(: Now you lovelies should know what's my next post yeah!
PS: Anyway, I've decided to quit this "modelling" industry for good after my last show on February or maybe probably March, and find a full time job to stable my life. Happy for me?? (笑)... It's been 4 years plus... Been through so much different types of assignments, gained lots of experience. Memorable, yet tiring:( So give me more event assignments now alrights?? HEHE~ But group shoot or CS shoot is definately a BIG NONO~!!! Love chuuu^.^
Do support my post "JovinYXY Personal Closet 2" below
Start shopping & get your CNY clothings now♥
(Though there isn't much leftovers)
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LAST BLOG POST FOR 2011
Goodbye 2011, & Welcome 2012
This will be my last post for 2011, thanks to all my readers for being there with me all along♥
2011 has been with us for the past 365days, it might not be a good year for some of you, but to me, everyday in 2011 is memorable! It has brought me lots of laughter and also a successful year for me! So I'm gonna celebrate it away tonight(: How bout you?? I don't really like crowded places, thus, I'll only leave my home after countdown is over(: 哈哈~ Hope you lovelies will enjoy the max on the last day of 2011, love chuuuu always(:
Do continue to support Jovin no matter it's 2012 or 2013,
MUCH APPRECIATED^.^
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